Have You Checked in on Her?

She’s the one who keeps the family moving, the human calendar, the chef, the cleaner, the referee, the nurse, the chauffeur, the finder of lost shoes, the wiper of tears. She’s the one making mental checklists before her eyes even open in the morning and replaying tomorrow’s to-do list as she drifts off at night.

She doesn’t clock out. There’s no “off” button for motherhood. And yet, she rarely complains, not because it’s easy, but because she loves her people more than she loves her own comfort.

But here’s the thing: moms are tough, yes… but even the strongest ones have a breaking point. She can only pour out for so long before the cup runs dry.

And here’s something else: the kids almost always want her. Even after she’s spent the entire day meeting their needs, answering their questions, reading stories, making snacks, and kissing booboos… when Dad walks through the door, they still choose Mom. She’s touched out, overstimulated, and stretched thin, yet she keeps showing up with open arms, even when all she really wants is just a moment to herself.

So I’m asking you, have you checked in on her? Not just, “How’s your day?” while scrolling your phone. I mean really looked her in the eyes and asked, “Are you okay?”

Have you stepped in without being asked? Taken the kids for an afternoon so she can rest in silence? Brought her coffee without her hinting? Noticed the way she exhales when the house finally goes quiet?

She doesn’t just need “a break”; she needs to know she’s been seen. That what she does matters. That someone notices the million invisible things she handles each day to keep your world running smoothly.

Don’t wait until she’s visibly overwhelmed to show up for her. See her now. Appreciate her now. Behind the strong, steady exterior lies a woman who gives everything, and sometimes, she just needs someone to give back.