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Writer's pictureErin Szoch

Know Your Worth

Whether it is dealing with a lousy boss, shitty friend, or settling with a toxic partner, it is time to stop and recognize your worth. I have dealt with people who have made me question my worth and I have seen people that I care about question their worth due to others.


Sometimes our good hearts ignore our brain or our gut when it comes to cutting certain people or habits out of our life. We think we can change people, that we can guide them down the right path, but it’s more likely they drag us down with them. There was a saying my dad told me in high school that always stuck with me... no one changes unless something life altering happens to them and even that can be highly unlikely. It is not your job to fix someone especially if it is harming you (causing more bad than good).


No one has the right to tell you if you are good enough. No one has the right to verbally, emotionally, or physically abuse you. No one has the right to play the victim while treating you poorly. If you are in a position where this is happening to you, I know it may seem like you‘re stuck or that it is your fault, but please understand, you are not the problem. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. You are strong and unique and beautiful. And you must get out of this toxic environment that is putting you in a dark space.


“For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth.” Psalm 139: 13-15


I have dealt with toxic people many times and have been taken advantage of more times than I can count. I was always thinking that it would get better or it would be worth the wait. WRONG. I was ignoring God's plan and following my own. That is when bad things happen. It is important that we understand God does not put us in harm's way, but He does have the power to help us out of the dark hole we got in. The devil is so good at distracting, disguising, and tempting. When we are stuck we must call for help and stop following our own plan.God is in power of our life's path.


“When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears, and rescues them from all their troubles.” Psalm 34:17


Find the strength to understand your worth. Find the strength in knowing what you deserve. Find the strength in leaning on God and your faith. We are beautiful creations that deserve everything we reach for. We are valuable and can do anything we set our hearts and minds to. God gave us another day to live so it is time to live our life to the fullest while leaving those who hold us back behind.


If you need any love or support or even a prayer request please reach out to me. Nothing is wrong with reaching out for help. I luckily met Bobby around the time I needed help and he helped me learn to love myself again. I still needed that extra bit of help so I saw a therapist. Seeing a therapist really helped me rebuild myself. Everyone is different with starting over or getting help, but seeing someone is a great resource and good first step.



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